The Evolution of Mo
Monifah Touches on Her Reunion to Herself, Family and Music
Singer-songwriter, Monifah Carter, has been making headlines ever since she re-emerged on TV One’s franchise reality show R&B Divas. The last we saw of the Touch It songstress was during the season three finale of R&B Divas: Atlanta when she debuted her wedding last June. With a year of marriage under her belt and a newly released single, many are wondering how married life is going and what the future holds for the songbird.
“Married life is good. It’s work and it’s fun. The partnership of it has been a really good experience for me,” Monifah said. Though some experts state that the first year of marriage is one of the toughest on a couple, Monifah and her partner, Terez, seem to be transitioning well.
“We still talk like we just started dating,” said Monifah. “We’re friends, so it’s just growing. It’s taking different shapes and levels. I can’t say that much has changed, it’s just strengthened. It’s a little more routine, but I appreciate that in my life. You just have to keep it interesting and fun.”
Last year, Monifah and Terez made history when their wedding aired on June 25, 2014, being the first African-American lesbian wedding ever televised. A year after the debut, the Supreme Court ruled in favor of gay marriage, legalizing it all over the U.S. With both moments being groundbreaking for the LGBTQ community, Monifah felt it was all in divine order.
“It’s divine. I didn’t even associate the two dates until just now, but that’s awesome. It’s high time that people are all afforded the same rights to marry who we want to spend our life with and be covered under the same judicial laws and rights. It’s the same partnership. You’re investing your time, money, and energy, so why can’t we be protected under those laws? It was unfair judicially, but it’s great that we’ve progressed.”
After an abusive heterosexual relationship in her teen years, Monifah made a conscious decision to date women. Since then, she says she has experienced adversity being in a same-sex relationship, especially as an African-American woman. Through backlash from family and friends and, sometimes, being judged in the music industry for her sexual preference, Monifah has never regretted her choice to date women.
“That would be denying who I am as a person and the things that I’ve experienced. I’m very comfortable. So, no, I don’t regret exploring my attraction to women and finding that I’m emotionally more attracted to them. I know that in my own community of people and in this business: there is a lot of prejudice and slighting. I feel it and I see it, but I won’t let it affect me in that way. I just won’t do it. I just keep pushing…”
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