How God Fills the Gaps in Our Lives 

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I was in England a few years ago, the guest speaker at a large women’s conference. I had just undergone about a year of oral reconstruction and surgery and was awaiting the final round of surgeries to permanently implant two teeth on both sides of my front two teeth. The dentist had given me a plate to wear that had two teeth inserted into it to cover the gaping holes that now stood where my teeth had once been. The plate was tight and uncomfortable, so I used to remove it when I was alone, but kept it handy, tucked into my bra. I will never forget getting ready that first night of the conference and feeling quite pleased with myself and the end result.  

England is quite fashion forward and I had carefully chosen my outfit, applied my make up and done my hair. The phone rang in the hotel room to tell me that my ride had arrived. I glanced in the mirror, approved of what I saw, and headed into the elevator. As I came out of the elevator, I saw the women who had invited me to speak and smiled widely to greet her. Her face immediately contorted in disbelief and horror. I noticed her eyes and riveted to my mouth. To my utter dismay, I realized that I had forgotten to put my plate in! In a split second, I pretended to stumble, bent down, turned to face the other way, grabbed my plate out of my bra and smoothly inserted it. I got up again, smiling and continued to greet her with a warm hug. Her face was so confused as she kept looking at my mouth. I asked her if she was okay, and she just nodded, and we proceeded to enjoy our night together. She never mentioned it to me, and I didn’t have the courage to bring it up.  

Although it is still cringe worthy, I can laugh at it now. I recognize that we all try to cover for things that we feel are missing in our lives. Alone in the privacy of our personal experience, we can see the “gaps” that are there and construct behaviors and facades to hide them from others. The gaps are confronting, they rob us of confidence, make us feel “less attractive,” insecure, and incomplete. We look at others convinced that they are more perfect and complete than we are and feel all the more miserable because of the comparison. The truth is that we are all incomplete by ourselves; we were created for relationship with God and without it, well, we just have gaps.  

One of the things that I love about my relationship with God is that He has never once recoiled in horror at my gaps but has smiled widely, accepted me fully with arms outstretched in warm embrace. In the Bible it didn’t matter if it was children his disciples were turning away, lepers that no-one else would touch, women with issues that made them unclean, people of other cultures and religions, beggars asking for money, prostitutes or women about to be stoned for ‘unspeakable sin,’ Jesus accepted them all, embraced them with unconditional love and acceptance, and changed their future forever.  

I’ve stopped trying to fill in the gaps myself. There is something refreshing and secure about being loved the way you are, accepted despite the gaps, made complete and able to smile at the world knowing there’s a God in heaven who can fill the void in me so completely that it gives me confidence to love others the way He has loved me. 


Jane Evans

Jane Evans is a dynamic speaker, author, leader, motivator, mother and wife. Evans was born in England, raised in Australia and she currently resides in Atlanta, Georgia. She is a mother to three sons and a mother-in-law to two daughters Mark, Nathan, and Benjamin. She tackles tough and thought-provoking issues while appealing to people of all ages. Jane uses insightful teaching, openness and her own wisdom to connect with people from all walks of life.

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